#PrideMonth — Closets

I saw a lovely post yesterday that reminded everyone celebrating Pride to remember that being out is not synonymous with pride nor queerness, and it reminded me of conversations I've had over the years about the whole notion of "coming out," and the how the single most misunderstood thing about "coming out" when I have …

Conversion Therapy, Revenge Porn, and Criticism

I always feel like I need to start blogs like this with a caveat: I'm not telling someone they can't write something. I will never tell someone they can't write something. Much like my latest "Why You?" post over at SpAN, or previous discussions over Pseudonym vs Identity or Gay-For-You, I want to be super …

Queer Isn’t an Opinion

The other morning, I bumped into this tweet: On the surface, this seems pretty respectful and polite, right? She's not swearing, she's not calling for the eradication of queer folk, she's just asking: can she not agree with homosexuality, but still respect homosexual individuals? Nope. Nope she cannot. And, in fact, she's doing damage. "Not …

Writing Wednesday — Bury Your Trope

Gah. (I originally tried to say all this without spoilers, and I give up. Spoilers for Star Trek: Discovery.) So, last night, the husband and I were watching a television show we've really been enjoying. A significant part of really enjoying this show for us? A out, open queer couple who obviously love each other, …

I Shouldn’t Have to Tell You Queer Bashers Aren’t Hot

Yesterday I clicked and read a freebie book on my phone, and it made me so very angry. I clicked it because the blurb made it sound like a “gay guy goes back to small hometown where he grew up and swore he’d never return” story, and I generally like a second-chance romance. I like …

Not That Kind of Sub

[Edit to add: This one has become a topic that pops up again and again. It was originally written, as it mentions below, in a response to an #RWChat discussion. But it's like a weed. It grows back. So if you're landing here because I shared it again and wondering why I shared something from …